Our Values, Our Destiny

People talk about "finding" their lives. In reality, your life is not something you find - it's something you create.   -David Phillips


Our destiny is determined by our values. What things or ideas do we give value? What things or ideas do we ignore?  These values then occupy a place in our heart, then in our thoughts, then in our actions.  Our actions then become our behavior.


Our behavior is a direct result our repeated thoughts toward what we value. Create the life you desire by focusing on the values that are consistent with that life. Any thoughts that don't support that life are  illusions or fantasies.

Being congruent means your thoughts, actions, and values are consistent. Where ever you are today, what ever you have in your life is a result of this congruency, and for better or worse, it is leading you toward your destiny.


You can change your destiny, or enhance your destiny, by focusing on the values that are consistent with the life you desire.


We don't need motivation to do the things we love.


Remember, motivation and inspiration are similar, but different. Motivation is a symptom. Many times it is needed because we are lacking the desire to do something. It may get us excited for the moment. It may even get a certain task or job completed. 


But inspiration will ignite the passions within.  And once ignited, the enthusiasm, the 'god-within,' will  determine our values, thoughts, and actions. Our Destiny.

Victory of Death

 

Victory or Death!

Does this sound familiar?  Have you ever heard it?  Have you ever felt the emotion behind it?  If the answer is NO, repeat this slogan 1,000 times today.  If you answered YES, repeat this slogan 1,000 times today. 

Victory or Death is not a slogan, it is an attitude.  It is an “I’m all in” attitude.  It demonstrates our personal commitment.  And when you think it through, our entire life as it is today, demonstrates our personal commitment, to this point in time.  Have we truly been committed?  Have we been ‘all in’?  Have you settled for being less than we are capable?

William Travis, the 27 year old commander of the Alamo is the first person to whom I attribute these words.  Imagine,  a 27 year old commander!  A commander over not just the Alamo, but American icons like Davey Crockett and Jim Bowie! 

He and the others had been given the chance to leave. To surrender. The Mexican army was marching toward the Alamo and the 180 or so freedom fighters chose freedom as their greater purpose.  They were committed to their freedom over a life ruled by tyrants.

We all have tyrants in our lives.  Jobs we hate. Debts and obligations we disdain. Relationships or health issues we struggle with.  These are the tyrants that we deal with on a daily basis.  And what is you attitude about these tyrants?  Do you tolerate being abused, or in debt, or being out of breath or over weight?   Do you desire freedom from these tyrants that you have allowed into your life?

You can’t run away.  These tyrants will follow you.  You must decide clearly what you desire.  How you want your life to be, not how you don’t want it to be.  And once you decide, you are in control.  It is as true today as it was for William Travis,  it is your personal freedom  that must drive you.  Your freedom from debt and control your finances.  Your freedom from abusive relationships or unfulfilling jobs.  Or your freedom from poor health and destructive habits.

And once you decide that tyrant runs your life, it is a clear choice:  Victory or Death!

 

 

 

"Old Dog New Tricks"

Old Dog New Tricks

Are you an Old Dog?  Are you a Young Pup?  Have you ever heard: You Can’t Teach an old dog new tricks?  If you agree with this you are a dog, not human.  One of the blessings of being Human is our ability to make decisions. To choose. To control. To adopt. In essence,  to maintain control over our destiny.

We have all met people in the 70’s and 80’ that are full of life, love, and enthusiasm. They are controlling their destiny by living a life of abundance.  We have also met people in their 20’s that are glum, bummed, and down and out on life and themselves.  They have failed to learn to take control of their life.  They have convinced themselves someone else is controlling their life. The ‘Man’ or “the powers that be’ or ‘my Parents’ are deciding for them what their life should be like.  So here we have a ‘young pup’ and an ‘old dog’ that are both experiencing life. But the ‘old dog’ is enthused about life when the ‘young pup’ is becoming bitter.

The good news is the young pup can change. This is because we have that ability to make choices that affect our life and a dog doesn’t.  So, learning new tricks is a choice.  And when we choose to not learn new tricks, we are making a conscious decision to not grow.  Not to advance. We are deciding to stay the same. To remain in our current situation.  If we are not growing in our life we are dying.  Our lives become unfulfilled.  We accept this plight. We become victims of our own thoughts.  Whether you think you can or can’t, you are correct.

Tricks may not the right word.  Tricks suggest we are deceiving, or using Illusions or delusional.  We know they are not real. We know they are false.  We know they are delusional.   

You might say: These are not tricks, these are techniques. OK, techniques. Techniques are methods, systems, practices, procedures, ‘modus operandi’.  These are all done, or developed, to get some kind of result.  And the truth that will set you free is that everything you do will get results.  The question is: Are these the results you seek?  If yes, the technics are working. It is now a matter of expanding our thoughts in order to expand our life.  Or, to learn ‘New Tricks.”

Converse to that, we may also get results that are inconsistent with our intended desire.  We get results that less than expected.  We ‘trick’ ourselves into believing this strategy will work, and delude (trick) ourselves into thinking this is a good plan of action.  And occasionally it does.  Once in a while it will really work out and we think we have hit ‘pay dirt’, the ‘Mother Load’, ‘Easy Street.’ 

And if you are blessed, and this activity is consistent with your passions and your ‘authentic you’ then maybe you have just swerved into your Bliss.

And then the question becomes: can the activity that lead to that success be duplicated?  Can you do it again, and again, and again? If the answer is ‘yes’, then by all means, Commit. Don’t quit.  Take action and build traction. Focus your energy. Harness that determination.  Channel those thoughts. Less becomes more.

Associate with likeminded people. Find them.  What you will find is that they are busy. Busy following their Bliss. Busy helping others. Others that are seeking their Bliss.  And this is one of the Keys to a successful life. Enlightened people that are engaged in pursuing being the best version of themselves, recognized that there are other people that are also pursuing their dreams with great passion.  And as this passion and energy builds,  more passion and energy will develop among others.  “Bird of a feather…..’, you know the expression. You know the answer.  In your heart, you know the truth.

Enthusiasm means ‘god within.’ Be enthused about your life.  If you’re not enthused about your life, then who will be?  Be enthused about something! Helping others, making money, travel, writing, speaking, selling, medicine, the arts, entertaining, it doesn’t matter, it is your choice. The results are 100% yours.  The reason people don’t execute plan ‘B’ is because plan ‘A’ never gets off the ground.

Be enthused about your results. Because you will always get results!  And when our results  are less than we anticipated,  recognize that they are  simply stepping stones on our journey to our destiny.  “Don’t get Mad, Get Better.” It is your choice.

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Occupy your Purpose

Occupy your Purpose: Ask yourself this question:  Am I here to pursue my passions or am I here to pursue the common good?  Who decides our passions? Who decides what is important to us? Who decides how we want to spend and share our love, our interest, and our level of commitment to those passions? And who decides the common good? Who decides how we should spend our time and commitments? And who decides our level of commitment to the common good?  When people pursue their passions, are they contributing to the common good?   And when people pursue the common good, are they pursuing their passion?  The answer to both could be: Yes.  But they are not interchangeable. In both cases the individual has decided the meaning of their pursuit.  And that pursuit is not incumbent on another person, or group, approval.   And it is only by our individual pursuits that we gain. Not for our ego, but for our highest spiritual self. And when we do pursue our passions, we truly have the power of God, and the universe supporting our efforts.  Pursue your passions and encourage other to pursue theirs and together, we all promote a better  life. Life is good. Enjoy your day in paradise.

Occupy your Creativity

Occupy your Creativity:  God created the world in 6 days and rested on the 7^th.  Jesus said,”All that I have done, you can do, and more.”  The first gift we receive is the gift of life. Our second gift is our ability to identify and create a world based on our passions.  We are the only ones’ in our life that can create our life.  No one can create it for us.  When we are creating, we come alive. We are pursuing passions that only we possess. We are living purely in the moment. Time is lost. There is no past. There is no future. Only the present. And in the present, we are living fully.  We have the ability to be creative every day. We have the ability to be creative every moment of the day. And as we exercise our creativity, all of our passions become intensified: love, enthusiasm, excitement, confidence, integrity, authenticity, respect. Your life is today as you have created it. Your life tomorrow will be as you create it. Live each day creating the life of your passions.  You are loved. Life is good.

Occupy your Clarity

Occupy your Clarity:  When we are clear in our thinking and actions, we gain confidence. And others around us gain confidence as well. Our lifes don't drift when we are clear about our intentions. People know where they stand and why. And more important, we know where we stand and why.  Good decisions come from Clarity. Be clear about your love of life. Be clear in your relationships with others. Love life to the fullest. Life is good.

Occupy your Attentions

Occupy your Attention:  What we pay attention to is what we become.   It is easy to say that our intentions should deserve our attention. But for many of us, we allow our attention to be fractured.  “A little bit of this and a little bit of that’ and before we know it, our lives are adrift.  I recently challenged a friend to think about what he would do if he inherited $5,000,000. He began by telling me the things he wouldn’t do. I did not want to appear pious, but I politely reminded him the question was: “ what would he do?”  Not, “what would he not do?”  He then began to tell about the bills he would pay, and the upgrades on his home, etc.  Again, while these are admirable, those are things he would do with the money, but not with his life.  “What would you do with your life,” I repeated.  How would you live your life?  The answer to this question is where our passion lies.  And where your passion lies, is where we need to be.  “We never need   motivation to do the things we love.”  This I guarantee: In five years you will be five years older!  And wherever   we are in life, take time to identify your passion, and then move in that direction.  In five years, you will have more love and life in your life.  You are loved, life is good.

Occupy Your Life

Occupy your Life: Live life in this very moment. Dream big now, act big now. Fear restricts while passion addicts. Get addicted to your dreams and passions! Life is for living. Not complaining. Not feelling resentful. But for the joy of the control and choices we have been given. Dream big today. And tomorrow, act big on those dreams. And dream some more. You are loved, Life is good.

 

Occupy Your Values

Occupy your Values:  Demeaning and denigrating those of whom we disagree reflects a value that says we think those people are unworthy of the humanity they possess.  It reflects a value that we only honor those who possess similar values. This does not create true diversity.  This creates separation and detachment from others, and worse, with ourselves. We are limited in our thinking, and our values become nothing more than ideas based on fashionable or seemingly popular trends.  Focus on, and challenge constantly,  your own Values.  Have the courage to live by these values.  And when we do, our lives become more fulfilled. More loving, and worthy of emulation.    

Occupy Happiness

Occupy Happiness:  Each day is a new day to create your life.  Do not chase things thinking they will make you happy.  For what purpose?  If happiness is the goal, go there first. Each of us is susceptible to having bad days. Or at least to have bad things happen at anytime.  It is our reaction to these things that can determine our happiness.  No one is exempt from things going wrong. Being disappointed, or being betrayed by friends and loved ones.  These things happen.  It is part of our humanity.  We must learn to accept these things. Not that we should lower our personal standards.  We must uphold our standards.  In so doing, we will create more happiness. Learn to forgive and forgive often.  Forgive others and do it often.  Be genuine. Forgive and move on with your dreams.  And forgive yourself. Don't beat yourself up.  Learn from it. Forgive and move on with your dreams.  Love life and life will love you.

Occupy your Wisdom

Of all the change that is needed in the world, it is our personal change that is needed most.  We must begin today to direct and focus our lives toward our passions, goals, and mission to help others.  And the first and best way to help others is to make certain our life is in order. That our life is complete with love, respect, understanding, and honor.  This is our wisdom.  We do not hate or pity. We do not  judge or condemn. We do not think as a victim.  We focus on forgiveness. We focus on our passion. We focus on our mission.  Our intentions become the focus of our attention.  It is inevitable that what we think about, we become.  Think about the life you desire with love in your heart and no one will care what you do. Do it today. Do it now. Do it from here to eternity.

A discussion of the IT that controls our life. IT is you.

-an Exerpt from "I am that....that is in the Well"

I am conflicted is a common feeling. And this feeling can cause stress or distress. Both are forms of fear.  And if nothing else, IT will be contemplated as one begins to move from a place of fear to a place of faith.

Understand: If boldness is not natural, neither is timidity.  It is an acquired habit, picked up out of a desire to avoid conflict.  If timidity has taken hold of you, then root it out.  Your fears or the consequences of a bold action are way out of proportion to reality, and in fact the consequences of timidity are worse.  Your value is lowered and you create a self-fulfilling cycle of doubt and disaster. 

            -Robert Greene and Joust Elffers: page 234, The 48 Laws of Power.

Build confidence in your authentic self. “…Your fears or the consequences of a bold action are way out of proportion to reality, and in fact the consequences of timidity are worse.” This worth repeating  these conscious words and allow them to  seep into your Well of the Sub consciousness until they become the new IT! And then IT will not only let you, but encourage you to pursue IT.

People don’t like to hear that their life is what IT is because of how they think, behave, act, or react. We are  much happier to lay the blame on another.  Our Mom, our Dad, or sister or brother.  Our boss, our teacher, the neighbor or preacher.

But the happiest people are the ones that accept IT for what IT is. And that is,  IT is us. We are IT. We are the ones that can accept all the blame and credit for their lives. And when we recognize that IT is our life, based on our decisions, and no one else’s, our life gets better.  And IT gets better because we have now accepted responsibility for IT.

Chase your Passion like it is the Last Bus of the Night

(excerpts from the new book: "I am that...that is in the Well")

The unexamined life is not worth living." Socrates

We may not know today our mission. We may not know our passions, but we must find them in order to live a fullfilled life.

The only thing standing between you  finding your passion is you.

You, and only you,  can do this. It is not  going to be bought at Wal-Mart or Tiffeny’s. Radio Shack has some great ‘techie’ stuff but it is your desire that drives you to these stores for something. I buy ink for my writing. A means to an end. Clothing, jewelry, gadgets, ect. All are things that enhance our life, but for what purpose? And for what purpose  will remain the central question? 

Last year there were over 2 million ¼” drill bits sold in America. Why? Because people love to collect drill bits? No. Because they had a need to make a hole. And most holes, end up getting filled. The ultimate result of this activity will be to satisfy some immediate need or passion.

In order to discover our passions, we must pay attention to our activities. We must acknowledge when we are in our bliss. It is in this ‘state of mind’ that will realize how creative and courageous we become. Courageous, as in the lack of doubt or fear. In fact, these negative thoughts never seem to creep into our thinking.

When we are experiencing our passion, our thoughts keep expanding and growing.  We have now entered the threshold of our passion.  We must mark it down. Write a note about that moment. Put the note somewhere you can see and read it.  And just like chasing the last bus in the night, when we are at the threshold of our passion, but must take that fateful  step into the destiny of our soul and never look back.

Transform, Never Conform, your Life: An excerpt from the book: I am that... that is in the Well

All change must come from within.  Any change forced upon you form the outside world is coercion or manipulation. When you conform you are adapting to someone else’s idea of how your life should be. Other forms of conform might include: kowtow,  peer pressure, intimidation, oppression or ‘playing the game.’ You instinctively would not do it, but you are reacting and not creating.

As a my friend, Ray Zwolinski,  once stated, “The root word in Conform is ‘con.’ And ‘cons’ ain’t good.” And Ray, if nothing else, is a unique person that lives with passion.

Conform is a result of external influence. At times it is so subtle that we are unaware of what is happening, while it is happening.  It seeps into our Well of the subconscious. The next thing we know we are reciting tunes from 40 years ago. Letting our pants hang low. Getting tattoos, or body piercing. Golfing or fishing when we should be working. Avoiding the responsibility for the direction that our life is going. We cease being a dream maker and by default, become an excuse maker.  Or worse, we lower our dreams. We lower our standards to justify our life. And worse yet, we continue to love (justify) our thoughts (ruts) and blame others for our plight.

I am not what you say I am or think I am. I am what I say I am!

ImPromptu Speaking: A story of Transformation, Love,and Forgiveness

Change is easy. It is staying Changed that is Hard!

About 7 years ago I began to change my life and I began to study in an intense manner. I studied books dealing with motivation, spiritual awareness, and interpersonal relationships.  While my life was good I felt something dramatic was missing.

This studying resulted in writing my first book:

“What’s in the Well Comes Up in the Bucket:

How the quality your life depends on your thoughts and your reaction to the thoughts of others”

Hang with me; I am getting to the point.  In the book I talk about my estranged relationship with my Father.  In short, I grew up afraid of him.  Without getting into details, he was physically and verbally abusive.  While my parents got divorced when I was about 8, he had peed in my Well in a big way. My Mom remarried about 6 years later, and husband #2 was about the same as #1.

As I began to study these materials, I was reading about 2 books per week, and I read over 700 books in about 5 years (I continue to read daily at about the same pace).  There were a few key things I garnished from all this reading: Love and Fear are our two strongest emotions. And when we make decisions based on fear, someone else in controlling the outcome. This is an easy thing to recognize, but harder to live.  Or as I like to say, “Change is easy, it is staying changed that is hard.” It is hard because we have created mental habits (surrounding our love or fear) and these habits control our thinking and behavior.

When we sit in your living room, it is easy to say what we will do next time this or that happens. One other key thing that I leaned was the meaning of: forgiveness.

The word ‘forgiveness’ came to me on about the 5^th or 6^th time I meditated.  It was as clear a word as if someone in the room had spoken directly to me.  Why did forgiveness come to me so crystal clear? At this point, I began to study forgiveness and learned the meaning and how important it is to forgive the most important person in my life. ME!  I came across a great quote by Ceanne DeRohan, “I forgive myself for having believed for so long that I was never good enough to have, get, or be what I wanted”

I forgave myself, and then I forgave anyone that I felt had ever offended me. Again, easy to do from the safety of your living room.  I began to pay attention to my self-talk and how fear was driving me, and others, to avoid certain situations or people. Especially authority figures.  I was literally retraining my brain to recognize fear in my behavior, and also to pay attention as to whether other people are coming at me from a point of fear.

As I said last week, I attended a eulogy for a casual friend. The Pastor asked for comments and I froze. My fear was still controlling me. I later felt bad that I had not shown love and respect for this person. It didn’t have to be anything grandiose. Just something respectful. His children, parents, fiancé, were all there, and no one spoke.  I felt bad. I literally had to forgive myself again, and I made a personal commitment that if that ever came up again, that I, at the very least would say something to honor the life of this person.

My Dad abused others, and he abused himself. He over consumed alcohol and tobacco, and at a time late in his life when his body needed to be strong, it failed him.  He lingered for six weeks in intensive care until his death.

I drove about 800 miles to attend his services. I was going to show respect for a man for whom I spent most of my life living in fear.  My impression of my Dad was that he was a bit of a scoundrel. But, I reconciled that he had given me at least one gift that I should truly appreciate: The gift of life.

I entered the church. This was a ‘mega’ church in the south, and to my surprise, the place was packed. When they found out who I was, they hugged and consoled me for my loss. To me, my Dad represented a deeply flawed man that left some profound scars in my mind.  My thoughts were to be respectful to those that had gathered, but to me it was: Let’s get this over with.

The pastor asked me to sit up front. Which I did. He talked about my Dad, and as he spoke I was thinking, “Are we talking about the same person?”  A few hymns were sung, and then the defining moment came. The moment when all my studies and meditations dealing with fear, love, and forgiveness, in an instant, came to a focal point. The Pastor said, “I would like his son to come up and say a few words”

I remembered my promise to myself that I would never let a life go unappreciated. I took a deep breath. Rose and moved toward the Alter.  As I turned I saw the enormous gathering for the first time. I took a second deep breath. I told those gathered about the having been too afraid to speak at a prior service, and that I would never let another opportunity to pass without paying respect and honor to the deceased. And when I made that promise to myself, I had never expected to be asked to speak at my Dad’s funeral’ Much too my surprise and relief, there was small amount of laughter that circled the room.

I continued to speak for a few minutes, and their love and appreciation for my Dad caused me to tear up. They knew the same man I had known, but I had not allowed myself to truly know him. I chose to live in the past, and not to truly forgive. That day, I was forgiven for my own fears and attitude about my Dad.

I got through the day. I couldn’t believe it. It was as if God was holding me to my promise.

They say when you give a speech, you actually give three speeches: The one you rehearse. The one you give. And the one you wish you had given when you think about the one you gave.

One reason I was able to overcome the fear was because I was aware of the fear, and I had actually rehearsed my presentation.  Although I did not recognize it at the time, that when I had left my friends funeral, I had told myself so many times that I would at the very least show respect for their life. So much so, that it became part of my new habit of thought.

About six months later, Flo died. She was 101. There were about 12 people at her graveside. The executor of the estate got up and read her last wishes.  One of those wishes was for Chuck Locy to say a few words. I began with what I had rehearsed, when someone dies, we should at the very least, show appreciating for their life. And off I went.

Lastly, 3 months ago, my only Aunt died. Once again, the Pastor simply made a general request for anyone to come up front pay respect. I waited. No one rose. Finally I did. I told the story again, and then talked about my Aunt. After my expression of love, others spoke. They felt safe, since I spoke.

Again, many people came up afterwards and said something like, “You always know the right thing to say.” The opposite of that is that people don’t speak in an impromptu manner because they are afraid they will say the wrong thing.

This is another example of fear dominating over love. We become afraid of loss. Loss of dignity, respect, social status, etc. And this fear limits us. Even when we should show love. And the reason we limit ourselves is because we have learned to act in a certain way when it comes to speaking to strangers. WE learn this as children and it carries into adulthood.  It is that simple. What’s in our Well Comes up in our Bucket.

When I asked, John, the first funeral where I froze, for his spiritual forgiveness, his humor came to me. He most likely would have said, “...since most people there don’t know you, you can say whatever you want and go home.” Showing respect and love is natural and easy to those who truly love.  And when we learn to love, we learn to overcome our self- limiting fears.

Overcoming this type of fear requires that we have love for people and love for ourselves. It is then and only then, that our love will dominate our fear. And when we show love, it will give other the courage to show love. 

Surfer Dude and Success

I recently spent a week near Flagler Beach, Fla. Nestled about mid-way between St. Augustine and Daytona Beach. A remarkable seaside community untouched by High Raise Condos and apartments.

My purpose was to visit family and give some Presentations for my book and some book signings. That leaves time for other things.

There is a beautiful strip of land that lays between the intercoastal waterway and the Atlantic Ocean.  The locals refer to this strip of land as:  Flagler Beach.  White sand, 200 yards wide at low tide and an ideal running surface. Others found it perfect for tanning, surf fishing, building sand castles, riding bikes, and a whole host of other wholesome and worthy activities.

On this given day, as I ran a stretch near Maggies European Cafe (a must on your travel log) I couldn't help but notice a group of ardent surfers.  As I jogged, they repeatedly climbed upon their board. Rode the wave. Then fell into the foamy sea.  I must have witnessed this group go through the same exercise a hundred times.  Their routine was to: paddle, climb, stand, ride, fall, repeat.

At first glance we might say,".. why bother."  But to the surfer, this is part of the key to success. And to a larger extent, the key to success in life.   Set a goal or exstablish desired results. Work toward those results. Adjust and readjust as necessary. Fall or fail from time to time. Climb back up and repeat the process after making those necessary adjustments.  And eventully, you ride the wave of success and make it look easy! Enjoy the ride. Enjoy your day in Paradise.

Intention vs Conviction

It is not the power of intention but the power of conviction toward that intention that matters.  We all have convictions about something.  And it is this something that determines what we get out of life.

Most of us dilute our talents.  We waterdown our desires.  We go along to get along. We compromise our dreams so much we forget what we wanted. 

If we are lucky, we will one day wake up and realize that other people have realized their dreams, why not me? We are now at the threshold of our bliss.  We realize we must do that something that we have frittered away.  We realize we must surrender to our dreams, and pursure them with the utmost conviction.

As Ben Franklin said, "it is our duty to pursue our dreams.  Anything short is immoral."

Our habits have lead us here.  Right now, reading these words.  Give thanks that you are here. Where you are in 5 days, 5 months, or 5 years will depend on what you do this very moment. How you change your life,your thoughts, your convictions, your habits.  Change is easy.  It is staying changed that can be hard.  Hold on to that thought. That emotion of your desire as long as you can.  Fall in love with your life.  Your dreams, your future, your destiny.  We are the only ones that can live our lifes.  Enjoy it. Love it. Life it.

Placebo vs Nocebo: It is all about Choices

Ben Franklin once wrote: " There are only two things that are certain in life:  Death and Taxes"

While Mr. Franklin is clearly a hero of mine, I would disagree with this 'tounge n cheek' quip. I would amend this by saying, " There are only two that are certain in life:  We must Die,  and We must live until we die"

We have no choice as to when we are born.  And most likely we have no choice as to when we will die.  Everything in the middle is a choice.  A choice of thought and the action that the thought produces and our reactions to the thoughts and actions of others. 

While most of us may know about the 'Placebo Effect' and how it can alter a persons perception in a positive way, there is an evil twin known as the 'Nocebo effect'. The Nocebo Effect is a negative perception about events or situations. It is a pronounced or profound thought toward doom and gloom.  And our thoughts create habits which will eventually manifest in our lives.

There will always be challenges and struggle in our life's.  This will occur to everyone, all the time. There is no exception.  What we must understand is the difference between struggle and suffering.  Suffering is our struggle internalized.  We internalize this by saying things like:  This crap always happens to me. Oh, darn, I did it again. Or, I can't seem to get ahead. Or, when will the other shoe drop.  The list goes on and on and on.

And this 'nocebo effect' is our own thoughts, that little voice in our head, which speaks to us constantly about ourselves.  We can not stop that voice, we can only control it.  And we control it by understanding that this voice is constantly reaffirming something.  Something good, virtuous, noble, and uplifting.  Or something bad, degrading, ignoble, or self defeating.

Recognize this process for what it is.  When those 'nocebo' thoughts creep in, and they will, stop them immediately. Recognize them as false.  While we may not know where they come from, it doesn't matter.  Somewhere, somehow, they came and we have them now.  This happens to everone.  And it how we internal these 'nocebo' thoughts that effect the quality of our lives and relationships.

Immediately shift your awareness to your better self.  Forgive yourself immediately for ever having thought these thoughts. You are not a bad person.  Just a person with these thoughts. Forgive yourself for ever having thought you couldn't be, do, or have anything in life.  Know that you are loved by many and sincerely appreciated for your inner beauty.

It is estimated that we think about 95% of the thoughts today,  were the same or similar to the thoughts we had yesterday.  Hang on to that 5% of  new thought and carry it over to tomorrow.  Over 20 days, your thought will be 100% new. 

Change is easy.  Mark Twain once said that quiting smoking was easy, he did it 3 times a day!  It is the staying changed that becomes the challenge. 

This change of thought takes time. As you change our thoughts your life will change. Slowly at first.  As you hold onto these new thoughts, your actions and life will slowly change tin the direction of those thoughts.

If you regress, or fall. Don't worry.  Regain your high ground.  Regain your focus. Get back on the bike. We all fall from time to time.  It is getting back on track that is key.

No one is alone on this journey. Be patient and loving with yourself.  Be patient and loving with others.

Enjoy your day in Paradise.

Testimonials for What's In The Well Comes Up In The Bucket

TESTIMONIALS

“Chuck Locy has just made the Bucket List something more than a sequence of things an individual wants to experience before they die. Locy has written a personal guide to enriching your daily life.  Put this book on your Bucket List today.”

Rick Robinson

Amazon Top Selling Author

The Maximum Contribution, Sniper Bid & Manifest Destiny 

“Chuck Locy delivers powerful information on self-examination and being accountable for our lives. Knowing the truth is the key to live effectively and with fulfillment. What’s in the Well is an analogy for getting on with our lives and not making excuses for why we can’t. Locy reminds one to “enjoy your day in Paradise!”

Mary Flinn, author of The One

“What's in the Well Comes Up in the Bucket. You have an unmistakable energy and passion for sharing your beliefs and advice with us. I love the well metaphor.”

Flora M. Brown, Ph.D

“Locy claims he wrote “What’s in the Well” to change his life, not yours.  Once you read it and are moved by Locy’s heartfelt wisdom and strategies for clearing up your own well, your life will also be changed.  I’ve paid literally thousands of dollars for various self-development and other such  programs over the years.  Locy’s wisdom is more accessible, more real and has the potential to be just as transformational.”

                                    

Janette Keiser, author, speaker, lawyer

“Locy talks about our life being about our choices, and our reaction to the choices we make.  What’s in the Well is a result of all those choices. Choose with passion, choose with purpose, and choose this book”.

n     Patrick Snow, International Best-Selling Author of Creating Your Own Destiny

“Charles, I love what I see!  A brand new metaphor!  Fresh ideas backed up with age-old wisdom : )  And you’re attacking cliché’s (which I think we all need to do!)”

Terri Dunevant  "Terri the Blitz Master"

“Charles, I have been positively changed by the words of wisdom through your book. I'm therefore confident that your book will also have a dynamic impact on others who read it. You have indeed created a "self-discovery" and "personal success" coaching guide for the 21st Century and beyond.  I wish you continual success! “

Ian S. Lavine, Cayman Islands.

“It is clear that Chuck Locy has had such a rich experience with life that he is fully equipped to share with us secrets to help us to go to a deeper level. His use of anecdotes powerfully causes us to access the truths found within them. His informative, yet strategic style is sure to get us to from where we are to where we want to be to swiftly obtain the success we dream about. He also helps us to tap into the wisdom of well known people who have successfully trodden this pathway we call life. If you put these principles to work, you will receive the results you are looking for in your relational interactions and self actualization. Read this book and you are sure to find the answers to help you change and even improve the quality of your life. Read this book and begin the journey of making it well in your own personal “well.”

Dr. LaVerne Adams, is the author of “Driven By Destiny”with the foreword written by Dr. Rick Warren.  She is also a certified life coach, inspirational speaker and for nearly 15 years she has been a pastor, professor and community leader, helping countless individuals to define their destiny.  Also known as “The Doctor of Destiny®”, Dr. Adams is life coach to celebrities and busy professionals. As a graduate and adjunct faculty of Palmer Theological Seminary with a Doctorate of Ministry, she is passionate about sharing her wisdom from years of experience and training and is intentional about motivating people to maximize their potential and live the life of their dreams.

“Charles Locy’s powerful message about life and change is compelling and captivating. Follow him to the well. Take a dip and see what comes up. This extraordinary book can truly change your life.”

~ Chris Bledy, author, Beating Ovarian Cancer

“What’s in the Well Comes Up in the Bucket is more than a parable or metaphor. It’s a paradigm shift.  When you understand that in order for your life to change you need to have the deepest parts of your well cleansed with the Charles Locy 7-Step purifying process. During this imagining process, your life becomes deeper, wider, healthier and much more! This book demonstrates that we have within us everything we need to fulfill our heart’s desire.”                                                   

                                             --Michael Helgeson, MBA